Looking for LOVE

jolanta · #1 07-16-2010, 01:04 AM

If you are looking for love, the best chance you have of finding absolute happiness with the perfect person (whomever that may be) is if you surrender to the Universe. Allow the Universe to bring the love of your life to you, and to move you to them. This means you have to get out of the way and become receptive to the possibilities that the Universe presents to you.

From our smaller perspective we cannot see everything, but from its total perspective the Universe knows the perfect matches.

Easy · #2 07-16-2010, 03:47 AM

Guess that's exactly what I needed to hear right now

although I must admit, ... I don't really know, what "stepping out of the way" means... I mean, I've been searching for the right one and 'been working on myself (you know, those self love /-esteem issues and also those fears concerning men and relationships resurfacing) for quite a while now and recently, I just want to find out, who I am and what I like to do and just softly giving less attention to "no men around... hmm" and more to "oh, I like this and that... and why not try this (hobbies and interests mainly

)"... but still I feel like I'm "missing my train"... you know? Anybody tips for me?

jolanta · #3 07-17-2010, 01:14 AM

You are not trusting the Universe

...and sending mixed messages of having and not having your love. The actually doing nothing less attention to "no men around as you have put it..is doing that for you...NO MEN around you..do not even say the words or concentrate or no men as you want to find yourself. Why not walk around and start thanking the Universe for the wonderful men in it and wow.look at how many there are..start thanking the Universe for the wonderful love you have...not when you are going to have..NOW you have him.

I on the other hand, am happy with solo

life and want someone and question...but do I really? The dilemma for me is...same as yours..lol..but in a different way.

Easy · #4 07-17-2010, 04:38 AM

Hi Cutie

(Actually, I love the fact you're from Canada

been sooo in love with this country when I was a teenager... actually never made it to get there...

Weeeeell... I guess my problem is... yeah, I'm sending mixed messages... like "Give me the man of my dreams... oh wait... no... maybe there is none... or he'll cheat on me..." etc. pp.

I was struggling with being single ... but mainly because of the belief "A woman ain't worth nothin' without a man" or something like that, buuut, that belief just doesn't sound that true any more

jolanta · #5 07-17-2010, 12:26 PM

You have answered your own questions as to why the Universe is not bringing you anyone

. I think if we can just concentrate nightly on seeing ourselves happy with an accpeting partner and vice versa..let go of the fears. When one attacks us..quickly say no and visualize the perfect scene. In fact, cut out the home, the perfect couple..paste it on a vision board and start dreaming. Replace the fear with a visual of what you want and see.

jolanta · #6 07-17-2010, 12:30 PM

Pls read FOCUS ON NOW...there...phew! I think we are all thankful and happy. I say THANK YOU to finally the great weather here in Vancouver. I thank the universe the I still have Coco left as Elvis is in heaven (my cat who joined the real Elvis in heaven)

. Thank you for my going away party today..Thank you for the wonderful day and life and learning curves.

Easy · #7 07-18-2010, 09:39 AM

Dear Jolanta,

great point, yeah... I aaam (

not... yet... maybe... 98%?

) one of those girls, that is independent and enjoys her life so even my future-darling's friends would want to date me

That's not the goal, but actually I always admired those girls, that are independent in a relationship with a man... not those who seem to need a man in order to feel worthy or whatever... or that cling to a man as soon as there is one...